Wednesday, July 23, 2008

A Mad Dash, Delayed Baggage, and Welcome Home Kisses

We are so happy to be home. But it is bittersweet knowing our Samuel is so far away. Despite a little jet lag and a sinus infection, we are doing well. Finally we are back to normal, thanks to strong antibiotics, and enjoying family and the comforts of home! Our 23+ hour trek home was good, yet eventful.

A few highlights...

Our flight from Rostov to Frankfurt was delayed, only no one told us. So we sat and waited for a couple hours, watching the clock, wondering if we'd make our 11 hour flight to LA. No announcement, no explanation, and almost 2 hours late we boarded the plane to soon find out the air conditioning was not working! It was a hot & sticky 3 1/2 hours, but we survived. Unfortunately, because of the delay we had only a few minutes to make it to our next flight. After a slow bus ride from plane to terminal we went on a mad dash...up and down stairs, on and off the sky line tram, oops wrong stop, back on and off the sky line tram, and then up and down the stairs again, carrying our bulky carry-on's. At one point as we ran through the terminal, Ryan turned around to see me lagging behind and said, "you've got to be kidding, is that as fast as you can go?" Confident this was said in love, and too out of breath to argue, I did my best to catch up. We arrived at the check in desk 10 minutes after scheduled departure, just as they were boarding the last family. Whew! We said farewell to our luggage, as we knew it would never make it in time and boarded the plane. We knew our seats were awful...row 36 in the back of the plane-smack in the middle, no window, no aisle. As we boarded, to the left was first class, and as we turned right we walked through two sections of business class, before coming to "Economy Plus", all on our way to "no knee room" class. I spotted 2 empty seats, 1 window and 1 aisle, and together! Knowing we were the last to board the plane, I asked a flight attendant if we could take the empty seats. He knowingly grinned and said he had no idea about the seat assignments. Taking his que, and knowing no one else was boarding behind us, we plopped down and claimed them. Ahh, God is good. Of course, this is true, whether we are in row 36, seats d and e, or if we are stuck in the Frankfurt airport for 12 hours. But it is especially cool when he gives us these little earthly comforts when we think we need them the most. I told Ryan as we rolled away from the gate, if our flight had been on time, we would have never known these seats were available.

This story goes along with our long flight 7 days earlier, on our way to Russia. We asked the lady behind the desk who was checking us in, in Fresno, if we could better our seat assignment for our LA to Frankfurt flight. Our original seat assignments for that flight were also in the back of the economy section, row 34 I think. She moved us to a window and aisle seat assignment in row 24. We were just happy to have moved up from the back of the plane by several rows and for Ryan, to a window. He's like a little boy on airplanes, marveling at everything he sees out the window. Later, as we checked in at the gate in Los Angeles, the gate attendant instructed us that our seats were in the "Economy Plus" section. She said these seats are normally a $150/seat upgrade and have a couple of more inches in leg room than the standard "Economy" seats. For those accustomed to first class, this may not be a big deal, but to us, these seats were luxurious, and we were grateful.

2 international flights, 10 hours going east, 11 hours coming back, and 2 upgraded seat assignments to rows 21 and 24, seats A and B, without an extra penny.

Home, we love being home. When we arrived, we were greeted with the much anticipated hugs and kisses from our kids, and many funny stories from camp. We got an earful about the treehouse built with Papa, which they had affectionately named "Fort Papa", snakes, airsoft gun wars, baby birds, donuts, movies, video games, and something about Noah overflowing Papa and Grandma's entire septic system. You'll have to ask Papa about that one, but sounds like GOOD TIMES to us. Calmer heads figure the overflow was actually the result of a large increase in water usage at the campsite, for many baths, showers, and nonstop laundry. But Noah was at the wrong place at the wrong time, so all of the campers lay the blame on his mighty little shoulders. Oh the funny stories that erupt when 5 boys are together for too long. Thank goodness for little girls to at least balance the smells and noises a little bit.


The head counselors, I have to say, did a fabulous job. All campers were happy and in one piece. My mom was busy 24/7 cooking all their favorite meals and washing clothes. It was a rude awakening on Sunday morning at home, when Taylor awoke to make-your-own-bagels! Thank you Mom and Dad, we love you! The sacrifice was great, we know, but we hope the reward is great as well.

We are missing Samuel and each night we pray for his day as it is just beginning for him. We were able to show the kids some video of Samuel playing. They think he's very cute and expressed they can't wait until he is here. Lauren, at bedtime that night said "Mom, when I was watching that video of Samuel, I was crying with joy." No doubt God is doing a work in our childrens' hearts to prepare them to love and accept their new brother. We know he will be the perfect addition to our family!

Much love,

Ally for Ryan

Prayer Requests

* For Samuel as he waits for us.

* For paperwork - that we'll complete all we have left to do, to receive our invitation to go back as soon as possible for our court date.

* That the US Citizenship and Immigration Service would process our application QUICKLY (see below)

For those that aren't aware of what this means. When you adopt an orphan from another country, you need approval from the USCIS, before you can get a travel visa for him to enter the US. In most cases, you apply for this as you begin the process of adopting, because it can take several months to get the approval. Generally this is okay, because it usually takes 6 months or much longer to get a referral or invitation to travel. By that time, you have the appoval you need. In our case, because we didn't plan on adopting from Russia until God introduced us to Matvey right before Memorial Day, we didn't apply until June 5th, just as we began the process to adopt Samuel Matvey. Currently, our local USCIS office, is processing applications submitted in January. So it could mean months of waiting on our government, even if Russia is ready to invite us back in early September, like Oleg is estimating. We haven't received any response back yet from the local office, but know they've cashed our check. The first word we'll get, will be a fingerprint appointment. After that it can take several weeks to get the formal approval.

Please pray, that God would intervene and move our application through very soon. We want to bring Samuel home. God is in control of this whole process. His timing will be perfect and we know He will do what is best for Samuel and for us.

Friday, July 18, 2008

Samuel's Got Spunk!


Baka Baka Samuel Matvey

We did it. Say goodbye that is.

We had 2 great visits with Matvey yesterday. Ally is still fighting a cold/sinus infection, but the Lord answered prayers and she was able to enjoy both visits.

Each time this week, he’s reacted a little differently as we’ve left, but mostly he’s made it clear that he’d prefer not to go back into his room or back to the playground to rejoin Group #8. He has enjoyed the special attention, and it seems he’d like to keep it that way. This is an answer to one of our prayers. We have been hoping that he will be ready to leave the baby dom in a couple of months. Although its clear the caregivers love him and do their very best, he’s ready to get out from behind the iron fence and find out what better place there is. He has plenty of spunk and spirit!

It was terribly hard to tell him goodbye. We left him in his room as his group was having playtime. After he let us know he didn’t want to return upstairs, he accepted Ally's comfort and then he did let us hug on him and went to his caregiver without resistance. We left all of the toys, books and puzzles that we brought from home. We hope that he will see them and remember us as he waits. Ally also made a family scrapbook for him. Olga translated each page into Russian, and the caregiver promised that they would read it to him often.

We're packed and ready to go. Oleg picks us up from the hotel in a few minutes to start the journey home. Only 23 hours or so. Our bags are lighter after leaving so many toys, but our hearts are heavier, as we had to leave our new son behind.

Thank you for your continued prayers. We love you and we’ll see you soon.

Ryan and Ally

Enjoy all of the pictures!

Thursday, July 17, 2008

New Shoes



God is faithful in the BIG things. God is faithful in the little things. And God is faithful in all the in between things. When we doubt, when we charge ahead recklessly and when we take caution, God remains faithful. We’ve seen each of these truths in the last 45 days since we first laid eyes on our new son

In 2005, when we came to bring home Noah Max, $1 exchanged for about 29p (rubles). Today, the same $1 exchanges for about 23p. If your reaching for a calculator, that’s about a 20% decrease.

Yesterday, we bought Samuel Matvey some new shoes. When we met him he was wearing worn out, slightly too small little leather high tops. We looked around at a couple of Russian department stores. We decided on a pair of traditional little shoes, pretty American looking. Fisher Price actually, a little bit expensive but we thought well worth it. We passed over another pair, at a high end shoe store in a new shopping center, the Actob (pronounced Astor), that makes you feel like you could be in downtown LA. Even with my (Ryan) normally reckless spending habits, we resisted because they cost nearly 4000p. We gave him the new shoes yesterday afternoon.

This morning, Samuel Matvey was wearing his new kicks again. As we sat out next to the playground playing, Olga introduced us to the orthopedist who’s been working with the little man. She explained as delicately as she could, that his new shoes didn’t provide enough support for his right foot. It was a little red last night after wearing them. We immediately agreed that whatever she suggested would be best for him was fine with us. So we took off the new shoes and she found the old pair for him to wear again. They definitely helped support his ankle better.

This afternoon, between visits, we decided to do some more shopping for Samuel and the kids in his group. We collected some Russian candies and cookies, and a few toys. We searched the local marketplace for shoes, but found none that would fit the need. Then it happened, my weakness for spending welled up, and we headed back to the Astor. Our son needed shoes, it didn’t matter the cost, we were going to leave him with what he needed. We’re sure he hadn’t experienced too many, if any luxuries in his nearly 3 years at the Dom. We wanted to spoil him. When my beautiful wife with the keen fashion sense decided on the appropriate pair, we asked for his size and went to the cashier. She rang them up: 3910p. Well worth it in these new parents’ opinion. I handed her 4000p, and she shook her head and smiled. This happens everywhere we go, including McDonald’s, so I assumed I had given her the wrong amount. But she grabbed a notepad and scribbled 1170p. Huh? No sale signs were posted but Ally asked her why the difference? Was there a sale? The clerk smiled and nodded “sale, yes”.

God is good all the time. Even when it comes to “unmarked 70% off shoe sales”. Big, medium, little, He cares about it all, because He cares about us so much.

As we sit here, on the other side of the world, we are so thankful that He has blessed us with the privilege of meeting and getting to know a little boy in Rostov on Don, Russia. We’ve been able to experience the pleasure of His grace, through the giggles, the tears and the limps of a boy God has not forgotten. We don’t deserve this privilege, but we thankfully pray for what has been and what will be.

Thank you for your prayers.

Ryan for Ally and Samuel Matvey

Current Prayer Requests:
Our final visits Friday with Samuel Matvey would be sweet.
That he would understand when we don’t come back Saturday, that we will return soon.
That the additional paperwork back at home, and in Russia, would be swiftly completed.
Safe travel
Taylor, Lauren, Makenna and Noah as they wait for mom and dad to return

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

We're Attached!


Our time with Matvey was sweet today. Both times we got to the Baby Home he was standing crying on the playground. We thought maybe he was just unhappy about losing a toy, but his caregivers told us he was crying because he thought we may not be coming. And it was heartbreaking to leave him each time as he cries again, trying to climb the fence because he wants to come with us. He does wave and watches us all the way to the car. His caregivers told Oleg today that before we came they were very nervous because Matvey is "selective" in who he chooses to trust. He is sensitive and they believe this is because of his "condition". We are so happy we made the cut!


He is a character...in fact that's what everyone around the Baby Home says, "He is a character boy". It is amazing to see him tackle hard things and see his ability to compensate for his little turned in legs and crooked fingers. We love him so much and can see he is an overcomer! It was fun to see him interact with his friend today. He was even willing to share his toys. It is so hard to see all the children here. They let us go into his room today. Everything is in perfect order and there is a routine, we got good pictures, and even this one of him washing his hands. What a good boy! I'm glad they allowed us to video and take pictures of him room and bed because it will help him have memories of his first home and those who love him here.


Today we signed the papers saying we intend to adopt Matvey as our son. Very Exciting! Thank you for all your prayers and encouraging posts and emails. It means so much and we are truly blessed by them.
Ally for both (including Samuel Matvey)

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

God Met Us At the Dom…







Both visits went very well today! Many changes have been made to the Dom (home in Russian) so much so that we hardly recognized it from 2 ½ years ago. It has all been remodeled and looks so modern now & there is a new playground where just concrete lay before. We are so pleased to see the changes. All of the caregivers have been so friendly and the doctor of the baby home truly loves the children. Ok, I know, enough about that…on to Matvey.

Matvey was out on the playground when we arrived and one of the doctors went to bring him to us. Ryan & I watched expectantly with video camera in hand. It was the sweetest moment and I wish you could all see. Well, knowing Ryan and his love for movie-making, you probably will get the chance to see if you live close! I handed him a stuffed puppy and he held it close. He even let me pick him up and put his forehead to mine and stared. He was reserved but, we could tell he was soaking up all the attention and our gifts helped I’m sure. He is very tender-hearted and quiet so far. No words or sounds came from his mouth during the whole hour we were with him.

We were able to speak with the Orphanage Doctor about Matvey and she filled us in on the sadness of his situation. We were given much more information this time than with Noah. The details are confidential, but I share this to let you know we left this morning’s visit (I more so than Ryan) with heavy hearts. His psychical challenges are more pronounced than I gathered from pictures and to be honest we were not feeling that same emotional high which we felt with Noah. This time we were feeling more sadness and some plain old natural fears were creeping up. I was reminded once again, in my own strength I could not do this. But, hang on, God is faithful! We did a little shopping for some new shoes…his are wearing out, and a couple more toys. Then back to our hotel and begun to talk honestly about how we were feeling. I told Ryan, this precious boy deserves a mother who loves him unconditionally and with excitement…and my question was to the Lord, “Am I the mommy you have choosen for Matvey Evgenievich Novikov?” Now you can imagine the emotions here…we’ve traveled all this way.

Don’t worry this story has a good ending and I only share it in order to give testimony to the truth that when we step out in faith God is near!!!! And it is only God who is able! On top of all these fleshly fears I asked Ryan to pray that I would have peace first of all about a new name for Matvey. We had talked on the plane and still weren’t excited about what we had chosen. In a matter of 10 minutes or so we confidently settled on Samuel. Ryan read some passages in 1 Samuel and we decided Samuel fit. Remember Samuel says as a young boy when called by God, “Here I am Lord”. Samuel grew to be a man of God who trusted and obeyed. Ok, thank you Lord, for yet another answer to prayer. Now off we went back for our second visit, feeling much better, but still afraid.

There we were waiting in front of his door, much like we did with each visit with Noah. And out he walked with a sweet grin on his face. So happy to see us and he let me pick him up and hug him. I can’t explain fully, but I felt an overwhelming peace and excitement to be this boy’s mommy. He is very gentle and by his body language you sense he has been waiting for his Mama & Papa. He looked right into my eyes and melted my heart. Thank you Lord, there was my answer. God is so good all the time, but today I noticed it more than ever because I was at my weakest. Just icing on the cake…a little later a caregiver came out a gave Matvey kisses all over his face and told us with big tears in her eyes that Matvey is her favorite and she wants so badly for us to love him as our own son…we gave a teary response back promising we would. She also asked him to point to Mama & Papa and he did…and then said his first words to us, which were “Mama” and “Papa”. That was it, any fears or doubts we were feeling disappeared and joy replaced them. May God receive the glory for this moment and for every moment forward as we continue to walk in faith and trust Him.

By the way they call him by a nickname which I’m not even sure how to spell phonetically but here’s a try, “Moitya”. Russian sounds are so different from English, but we are learning lots of new words. I was transparent about our (mostly my) inward struggle today, but failed to mention Matvey is a very cute boy and we love every part of him.

“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever, Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21

Ally for both



Monday, July 14, 2008

Safe And Sound

We're here. Rostov on Don that is.

The kids all dropped us at the airport on Saturday morning, and since Taylor is only 11, Papa and Grandma came too. We were very sad to leave, and I think the kids were sad too. Even Noah seemed to know we were leaving him for longer than he's been without us since he came home almost 3 years ago. But Matvey is waiting, so we left with heavy, but excited hearts.

Our travel was largely uneventful through the night, and after stops in LA and Frankfurt, we landed safely in Vienna on Sunday. Hopefully Ally won't become too accustomed to flying nearly 7,000 miles for a romantic getaway. I think I avoided that when I reserved a room at an airport hotel. We did get to explore the "Interstadt" Vienna for a few hours in the evening and even in that short of time we were able to see that it is a beautiful city. We took the CAT, or City Apple Train from the airport into the heart of the city. Turned out it was the City Airport Train, but with the right accent, airport sounds like apple.

This morning, after a great night's sleep, we showed up at the airport, a little later than we would have liked. Upon check-in, we were told the flight was overbooked, and we were on stand-by. No seats were available, in economy or business class. They asked for volunteers, but got none to take a later flight to Rostov, via Istanbul. A documentary film crew considered, but in the end didn't volunteer. When it seemed like were left in Vienna until some later time or date, the gate attendant invited us to board the bus that would take us to the plane, and that she'd bumped us up to business class where they apparently had a couple of seats open up. God shows He is always good and always faithful, even in the little details. On to Rostov...

We arrived in Rostov late this afternoon and found out, that in spite being of parents to one Russian citizen, and waiting on another, we can't go through the Russian citizen's line at Passport Control. When we made it through, we were so thrilled to see Oleg and Olga. For those new to our story, Oleg is an attorney who serves a our facilitator and Olga is our translator. They both helped us immeasurably last time we were here and we felt very comfortable when we saw their smiles again. Turns out, we're the first family Oleg has helped in 2 years. We were shocked to find that out. Many children haven't had their chance and are still waiting to find their Mom and Dad.

Tomorrow, will be the first meeting for us with Matvey. God has led us to this point, at this time, and we pray that we get the privelege and blessing to be his parents. Please pray for a good first meeting, and for Matvey's heart to be open to us.

Our meeting time is tomorrow at 10:00 am (11:00 pm Monday night in CA). Oleg informed us that Matvey is bright and known to be a leader of his group at the baby home. From what we could decipher, a group may include around 20 children. Seems like this baby home may produce a high percentage of leaders. (Noah leans a little bit towards being a leader, too)

Taylor, Lauren, Makenna and Noah:
We love you and miss you bunches! We have your pictures and drawings ready to take to Matvey tomorrow, along with all the toys you sent. We'll hug him for you.
Mom and Dad

Thank you all for your prayers.
Ryan for Ally

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

My Tebya Lyublyu Matvey!

We are happy to announce we are leaving for Russia on Saturday to meet a little boy who is now living in the same Baby Home that our son Noah Max once lived. We saw a picture of this precious boy on an agency website and fell in love. His name is Matvey, pronounced Maht-VEE in Russian, but the kids call him Matsey. He is almost 3 years old and was born with arthrogryposis, a disorder which affects his joints and muscles. The story and circumstances which brought us to this spot is an amazing one and we give God the praise for how He continues to lead us moment by moment. We will share more of God's faithfulness and our "story" in later posts, but for now we have much to do to be packed up and ready to go!

For now we covet your prayers! Many of you have been asking how you can be praying specifically for this first trip and so here is the list...

  • Please pray for our 4 children who are staying behind. We will be gone for a week, which seems like a long time for this mama's heart!
  • The kids are staying at grandma & grandpa's house. They are all SO excited about "grandma camp" because their favorite cousins will be there too! Pray that all the campers obey the rules. And for an extra measure of strength and energy for the camp directors...who will also be performing the duties of cook, nurse, game leader, counselor, you get the idea! We are so grateful for my parents and their willingness to watch our children once again. Thanks mom & dad!
  • A safe travel there and back and good health as well. We are not interested in catching any bugs, 'cause it's not any fun to be sick, but also it could potentially keep us from visiting the Baby Home.
  • That God would prepare Matvey's heart to meet us. We may look, smell, and sound strange to him. We have an appointment to visit his Baby Home on Tuesday, July 15th in the morning, which will be Monday at bedtime for you. We will be 11 hours ahead.

We are so blessed to have family & friends who have been so encouraging and faithful to pray for us already. We love you all!

My Tebya Lyublyu Matvey...We Love You Matvey!

Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."